Breakups suck and when you go through one, having friends who love you and care for you can make a world of difference as you try to find your new normal. Whether you were in a relatively new relationship or you're seeing the end of something that was more long-term, breakups sting. It's common to turn to your friends for words of comfort and that's what makes friends so great. They call to check-in to see how we're doing, listen to our sadness and confusion as we try to start over and well, sometimes they say cliche things that we find more annoying than helpful. Well meaning friends are just trying to help us through something, but sometimes those words of comfort just make our rage boil. Click for 7 things you should NEVER say to someone after a breakup!
-By Devan McGuinness
"There are other fish in the sea"
This saying is so cliche it hurts to write. We all know that there are a lot of people in the world, but while grieving the loss of a relationship, this is hardly helpful.
"Now we can hang out more!"
Oh, don't make it about you and don't make them feel guilty about the time spent on their relationship.
"Think it's really over?"
Oh maybe you've heard it before that they were over and they got back together. Whether that's the plan or not or which way you hope for it to go, it's not helpful.
"I know someone perfect for you"
If your friend just broke up with their partner, don't try to rush them into finding another partner right away. If you have someone perfect, hold on to it for a bit.
"You could do so much better"
While you may have feelings about what your friend's partner was like, don't bad-mouth them because that's not your place.
"You'll get over him soon"
You know those sayings that it takes half the time you were together to get over someone or something like that? Timelines are not okay.
"Being single isn't that bad"
Well, who implied it was in the first place? It's probably scary enough looking forward but this just frames it all wrong.
-By Devan McGuinness
"There are other fish in the sea"
This saying is so cliche it hurts to write. We all know that there are a lot of people in the world, but while grieving the loss of a relationship, this is hardly helpful.
"Now we can hang out more!"
Oh, don't make it about you and don't make them feel guilty about the time spent on their relationship.
"Think it's really over?"
Oh maybe you've heard it before that they were over and they got back together. Whether that's the plan or not or which way you hope for it to go, it's not helpful.
"I know someone perfect for you"
If your friend just broke up with their partner, don't try to rush them into finding another partner right away. If you have someone perfect, hold on to it for a bit.
"You could do so much better"
While you may have feelings about what your friend's partner was like, don't bad-mouth them because that's not your place.
"You'll get over him soon"
You know those sayings that it takes half the time you were together to get over someone or something like that? Timelines are not okay.
"Being single isn't that bad"
Well, who implied it was in the first place? It's probably scary enough looking forward but this just frames it all wrong.
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